My conscious thinking brain knows this. My unconscious emotional brain sometimes doesn't.
When we're feeling wound up by our kids it's often time to step back and regulate - which will reconnect us to our thinking brain again - the part of the brain that knows it's not personal.
For me, it can be a few minutes alone, preferably in silence, unplugged from devices. It can be walking around barefoot, ideally outside. It can be smelling the dog, or smelling the rain, crossing a couple of things off the to do list. It can be focusing on a hot cup of tea.
We might or might not want to have a problem-solving conversation about the way we're being spoken to when our kids are under stress. We might or might not want to set some expectations and decide some boundaries.
We'll be in a better place to think about that when we're not feeling wound up.
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