I love this but…
Yes - and no.
Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control.
Children with significant levels of trauma, adults with significant levels of trauma, do not feel safe very often. Children and adults living with traumatised people can develop secondary trauma and they don’t feel very safe either..
We can offer safe relationships by holding our calm, being kind, and communicating healthy boundaries decided from a reflective place. This may or may not enable people to feel safe in our presence. At least not in the short term.
Let’s not take responsibility for emotions and reactions that may have nothing at all to do with us.
In the world of trauma, success is offering that safety - that warm and firm - not whether or not others can feel it.
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