#window of tolerance

Sep 232 min read

Pulling together through the difficult times

I've got NVR groups underway, new individual families as well as existing families, I’m just restarting university for the second/last...

Sep 131 min read

Everything that irritates

Carl Jung said everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. It’s true. Sometimes things...

Aug 301 min read

Breathe

When things are going well it's easier to be intentional in our parenting. It's much more of a challenge when we're out of our window of...

Aug 291 min read

Rudeness

My conscious thinking brain knows this. My unconscious emotional brain sometimes doesn't. When we're feeling wound up by our kids it's...

Aug 141 min read

Collaborative problem solving

Collaborative conversations are a fundamental part of NVR parenting and NVR approaches in schools. Starting from a belief that everyone's...

Aug 82 min read

Coregulation

Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

May 251 min read

I'm so sorry

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

Apr 252 min read

Triggers and glimmers

Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...