One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode. Most...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

Did you know that you can apply for disability living allowance (PIP) if your child needs help above and beyond what would typically be...

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

I love this quote by Haim Ginott (1922-1973) - a teacher, psychologist, and psychotherapist who was passionate about educational...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...

If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...

Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...

Today is world siblings day. When children can’t live with their parents, the decision whether to keep brothers and sisters together in a...

If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...

It takes a village to raise a child, any child, but especially a traumatised child. We can’t do it alone. We need other people who can...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...