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Jun 141 min read

Creating the conditions for felt safety

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

May 312 min read

Where's the harm?

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

May 301 min read

Parental presence

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

May 251 min read

I'm so sorry

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

May 161 min read

Children don't need perfection

Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...

Apr 261 min read

Get a dog

If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...

Apr 171 min read

Self care

Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...

Apr 102 min read

Adopting siblings

Today is world siblings day. When children can’t live with their parents, the decision whether to keep brothers and sisters together in a...

Apr 81 min read

Tolerating big feelings

If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...

Apr 71 min read

It takes a village

It takes a village to raise a child, any child, but especially a traumatised child. We can’t do it alone. We need other people who can...

Apr 62 min read

Realistic therapeutic parenting

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

Apr 42 min read

Birthdays

Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...