#rupture and repair

Nov 251 min read

Now you see me...

I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that...

Nov 212 min read

It’s not about what happened to us as children

One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...

Sep 141 min read

Your old self has no say

We all make mistakes as parents. We all have regrets. We all feel shame sometimes. Give yourself permission to move on from the parent...

Jul 205 min read

BRAVING - the elements of trust in relationships

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

May 251 min read

I'm so sorry

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

May 161 min read

Children don't need perfection

Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...