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Now you see me...
I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that...

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Nov 25, 20241 min read


Tigers and teddy bears
I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

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Nov 24, 20242 min read


Two things can be true
Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...

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Sep 10, 20242 min read


Everyone's doing their best
This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

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Aug 6, 20241 min read


Kind stories
This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

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Jul 10, 20242 min read


Birthdays
Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...

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Apr 4, 20242 min read
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