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Family values - compliance to commitment
I have great respect for Brene Brown & love her perspective here. She’s all about family values - taking children on a loving journey...

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Oct 19, 20243 min read


Self-fulfilling prophecy in NVR
I love this quote by Karyn Purvis - an expert in developmental trauma, attachment difficulties, and therapeutic approaches. She was one...

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Aug 25, 20242 min read


NVR chat - follow up group for parents
Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

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Aug 23, 20242 min read


Coregulation
Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

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Aug 8, 20242 min read


Children who need love the most...
Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

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Aug 7, 20242 min read


Everyone's doing their best
This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

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Aug 6, 20241 min read


The problem with praise
If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

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Jul 29, 20242 min read


BRAVING - the elements of trust in relationships
Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

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Jul 21, 20245 min read


Creating the conditions for felt safety
I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

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Jun 14, 20241 min read


Where's the harm?
An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

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Jun 1, 20242 min read


Adopting siblings
Today is world siblings day. When children can’t live with their parents, the decision whether to keep brothers and sisters together in a...

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Apr 10, 20242 min read


Realistic therapeutic parenting
Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

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Apr 7, 20242 min read


Birthdays
Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...

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Apr 4, 20242 min read
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