#polyvagal theory

Nov 111 min read

Glimmers - micro moments of joy

Glimmers are those tiny, magical moments that make us feel peace, joy, safety, and connection. They make us feel alive. We often don't...

Aug 291 min read

Rudeness

My conscious thinking brain knows this. My unconscious emotional brain sometimes doesn't. When we're feeling wound up by our kids it's...

Aug 212 min read

Things I manage not to say

Children’s brains are wired differently to adult brains. The bits of the brain that help us manage our emotions and impulses, reflect on...

Aug 82 min read

Coregulation

Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

Jun 301 min read

The measure of parenting success

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

May 251 min read

I'm so sorry

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

Apr 252 min read

Triggers and glimmers

Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...

Apr 102 min read

Change starts with us

In NVR parenting, change starts with us - the adults. When you hear that, what does it bring up in you? It's easy to conclude that if...