The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode. Most...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

I love this quote by Haim Ginott (1922-1973) - a teacher, psychologist, and psychotherapist who was passionate about educational...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

It’s tempting to compare ourselves, our parenting, our children, to others. But we don’t all experience things the same. We don’t all...

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

Don't compare how you feel on the inside to how others appear on the outside. Remember - what people present on social media is a poor...

Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...

If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...

Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...

In NVR parenting, change starts with us - the adults. When you hear that, what does it bring up in you? It's easy to conclude that if...

If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...

It takes a village to raise a child, any child, but especially a traumatised child. We can’t do it alone. We need other people who can...