“The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.” This is an interesting one that’s going to land differently depending on...

I had a conversation with a parent this week they said “I don’t like who I become when my child pushes me to my limits?” It got me...

It’s been a bumpy ride over the past few months. My girls lost their mum unexpectedly late last year. There’s this idea that children who...

I was talking to a friend yesterday - an adopter and fellow NVR practitioner. I can’t tag her because she doesn’t have a page. The...

Happy New Year from one courageous parent to another. This year, I’ve seen so much quiet courage - tough decisions that needed to be...

“Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind” – Brene Brown This quote comes to mind often, because it’s so true - for our young people but also for...

As babies and children learn new things, their brain grows. There's a time for learning different things and if the opportunity's there...

Content warning - suicide. Having recently discovered and started to engage in the world of AI, I'm impressed. Chat GPT and Copilot are...

I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs,...

One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...

In an NVR group for kinship/connected carers we talked about the importance of venting. Sometimes we don’t want advice - we just want to...

The stories we tell ourselves matter. Whether emotions shape our narrative or our narrative shapes our emotions is up for debate. But one...

Let’s face it - expressions of anger in our children can be overwhelming. The shouting, stomping, crashing and banging. The “I hate you...

Finished an incredible journey with a neurodivergent family this week. We started working together about a year ago. At that point every...

Disenfranchised grief in adoption (and other similar family set ups) is a topic close to my heart - grief that society (and often family)...

Today started with a school meeting. Usually, families are referred to NVR to learn different ways to parent in very difficult...

I have great respect for Brene Brown & love her perspective here. She’s all about family values - taking children on a loving journey...

Emotion coaching has come up a few times this week in work with parents. When the first emotion we see and feel from our children is...

It’s very unusual for us to have a day out that’s not on the beach or in a field - the highlight being a cup of tea from a tin kettle in...