Collaborative conversations are a fundamental part of NVR parenting and NVR approaches in schools. Starting from a belief that everyone's...

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

What a beautiful illustration by Hazel Mead. Reminding us to always to consider what's going on underneath the surface, to look beyond...

Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

Relationship gestures - a fancy term for all the things we do that keep us deeply connected to our children - are fundamental to NVR. A...

If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode. Most...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

I love this quote by Haim Ginott (1922-1973) - a teacher, psychologist, and psychotherapist who was passionate about educational...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

Looking for a resource to help with conversations about consent? There are some interesting videos out there using 'a cup of tea' to open...