I'm delivering an NVR group at the moment and this morning we were thinking about increasing our presence (in their minds and hearts)...

Yesterday I had the honour and the privilege of spending the day with a group of kinship carers - thinking together about the difficult...

Some children need ‘Superparents’ - the premise of Amber Elliot’s book for therapeutic parents. But striving to be the perfect parent for...

I've got NVR groups underway, new individual families as well as existing families, I’m just restarting university for the second/last...

Deciding where to set our expectations for our children can be tricky when there's trauma, disabilities, and other things going on like...

Learning to feel safe after a lifetime of being on guard is going to take time. In adoption, fostering, or kinship care - “a lifetime of...

We all make mistakes as parents. We all have regrets. We all feel shame sometimes. Give yourself permission to move on from the parent...

Carl Jung said everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. It’s true. Sometimes things...

If the only tool you have is a hammer, it's tempting to treat every problem as though it were a nail. A quote often attributed to Abraham...

Where there’s family violence, there’s shame. Children can be violent and aggressive for all sorts of reasons. For some children big...

Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...

We’ve got a reactive cavapoo who barks a lot when anybody walks past the house, especially if they’ve got a dog. Initially there was no...

When things are going well it's easier to be intentional in our parenting. It's much more of a challenge when we're out of our window of...

My conscious thinking brain knows this. My unconscious emotional brain sometimes doesn't. When we're feeling wound up by our kids it's...

Human beings learn by experience - things going well and things going not so well. It’s tempting to feel as though we need to say...

I love this quote by Karyn Purvis - an expert in developmental trauma, attachment difficulties, and therapeutic approaches. She was one...

Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

Children’s brains are wired differently to adult brains. The bits of the brain that help us manage our emotions and impulses, reflect on...

This right here is the key to therapeutic parenting - saying yes to the feelings (or ideas, or thoughts, or wishes, or drives) while also...

A level results in our house today. I’m in awe of those that did well and in awe of those that didn’t do so well. It’s difficult for...