Self compassion
The great thing about self compassion is it allows us to accept ourselves as we are while we openly acknowledge where we've still got...
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elainenichollsnvr
May 161 min read
Children don't need perfection
Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 261 min read
Get a dog
If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 252 min read
Triggers and glimmers
Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 171 min read
Self care
Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 131 min read
It's okay to pay a high price
“It’s okay to pay a price if you’re buying something valuable.” This section is from a book by Eli Lebowitz and Haim Omer. It’s about the...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 102 min read
Change starts with us
In NVR parenting, change starts with us - the adults. When you hear that, what does it bring up in you? It's easy to conclude that if...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 81 min read
Tolerating big feelings
If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 71 min read
It takes a village
It takes a village to raise a child, any child, but especially a traumatised child. We can’t do it alone. We need other people who can...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 42 min read
Birthdays
Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...
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