A Trauma-informed Christmas
As we get ready for the magic of Christmas, here’s a helpful list for mums and dads - a reminder that the joyful season isn’t always so...
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elainenichollsnvr
Nov 212 min read
It’s not about what happened to us as children
One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...
elainenichollsnvr
Sep 302 min read
Accept your humanity
Some children need ‘Superparents’ - the premise of Amber Elliot’s book for therapeutic parents. But striving to be the perfect parent for...
elainenichollsnvr
Sep 141 min read
Your old self has no say
We all make mistakes as parents. We all have regrets. We all feel shame sometimes. Give yourself permission to move on from the parent...
elainenichollsnvr
Aug 301 min read
Breathe
When things are going well it's easier to be intentional in our parenting. It's much more of a challenge when we're out of our window of...
elainenichollsnvr
Aug 272 min read
Alice's Umbrella
Human beings learn by experience - things going well and things going not so well. It’s tempting to feel as though we need to say...
elainenichollsnvr
Aug 132 min read
Can I use consequences in NVR parenting?
Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...
elainenichollsnvr
Jul 132 min read
The NVR map
One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode. Most...
elainenichollsnvr
Jul 21 min read
Achieving better connections
Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...
elainenichollsnvr
Jun 301 min read
The measure of parenting success
A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...
elainenichollsnvr
May 261 min read
We all go through things differently
It’s tempting to compare ourselves, our parenting, our children, to others. But we don’t all experience things the same. We don’t all...
elainenichollsnvr
May 161 min read
Children don't need perfection
Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...
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