Collaborative conversations are a fundamental part of NVR parenting and NVR approaches in schools. Starting from a belief that everyone's...

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

Relationship gestures - a fancy term for all the things we do that keep us deeply connected to our children - are fundamental to NVR. A...

If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...

Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...

It takes a village to raise a child, any child, but especially a traumatised child. We can’t do it alone. We need other people who can...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...