#childhood trauma

Nov 251 min read

Now you see me...

I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that...

Nov 242 min read

Tigers and teddy bears

I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

Nov 212 min read

It’s not about what happened to us as children

One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...

Aug 232 min read

NVR chat - follow up group for parents

Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

Jun 301 min read

The measure of parenting success

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

May 251 min read

I'm so sorry

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

Apr 81 min read

Tolerating big feelings

If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...