I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs,...

Finished an incredible journey with a neurodivergent family this week. We started working together about a year ago. At that point every...

I'm delivering an NVR group at the moment and this morning we were thinking about increasing our presence (in their minds and hearts)...

Deciding where to set our expectations for our children can be tricky when there's trauma, disabilities, and other things going on like...

We all make mistakes as parents. We all have regrets. We all feel shame sometimes. Give yourself permission to move on from the parent...

Where there’s family violence, there’s shame. Children can be violent and aggressive for all sorts of reasons. For some children big...

Children’s brains are wired differently to adult brains. The bits of the brain that help us manage our emotions and impulses, reflect on...

This right here is the key to therapeutic parenting - saying yes to the feelings (or ideas, or thoughts, or wishes, or drives) while also...

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

What a beautiful illustration by Hazel Mead. Reminding us to always to consider what's going on underneath the surface, to look beyond...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

Relationship gestures - a fancy term for all the things we do that keep us deeply connected to our children - are fundamental to NVR. A...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...

“It’s okay to pay a price if you’re buying something valuable.” This section is from a book by Eli Lebowitz and Haim Omer. It’s about the...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...