#behaviour management

Nov 242 min read

Tigers and teddy bears

I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

Nov 232 min read

NVR - evidence base and adaptability

NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs,...

Nov 191 min read

What's the story?

The stories we tell ourselves matter. Whether emotions shape our narrative or our narrative shapes our emotions is up for debate. But one...

Oct 182 min read

Emotion Coaching

Emotion coaching has come up a few times this week in work with parents. When the first emotion we see and feel from our children is...

Sep 141 min read

Your old self has no say

We all make mistakes as parents. We all have regrets. We all feel shame sometimes. Give yourself permission to move on from the parent...

Sep 22 min read

Boundaries

We’ve got a reactive cavapoo who barks a lot when anybody walks past the house, especially if they’ve got a dog. Initially there was no...

Aug 272 min read

Alice's Umbrella

Human beings learn by experience - things going well and things going not so well. It’s tempting to feel as though we need to say...

Aug 132 min read

Can I use consequences in NVR parenting?

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

Jun 211 min read

Teachers hold a key

I love this quote by Haim Ginott (1922-1973) - a teacher, psychologist, and psychotherapist who was passionate about educational...

May 312 min read

Where's the harm?

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...