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elainenichollsnvr
Jul 4, 20242 min read
Disability support
Did you know that you can apply for disability living allowance (PIP) if your child needs help above and beyond what would typically be...
elainenichollsnvr
Jul 2, 20241 min read
Achieving better connections
Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...
elainenichollsnvr
Jun 30, 20241 min read
The measure of parenting success
A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...
elainenichollsnvr
Jun 23, 20241 min read
Mindful parenting
I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...
elainenichollsnvr
Jun 21, 20241 min read
Teachers hold a key
I love this quote by Haim Ginott (1922-1973) - a teacher, psychologist, and psychotherapist who was passionate about educational...
elainenichollsnvr
Jun 14, 20241 min read
Creating the conditions for felt safety
I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...
elainenichollsnvr
Jun 10, 20242 min read
You can't do everything
I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....
elainenichollsnvr
May 31, 20242 min read
Where's the harm?
An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...
elainenichollsnvr
May 30, 20241 min read
Parental presence
This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...
elainenichollsnvr
May 27, 20242 min read
FRIES?
Looking for a resource to help with conversations about consent? There are some interesting videos out there using 'a cup of tea' to open...
elainenichollsnvr
May 26, 20241 min read
We all go through things differently
It’s tempting to compare ourselves, our parenting, our children, to others. But we don’t all experience things the same. We don’t all...
elainenichollsnvr
May 25, 20241 min read
I'm so sorry
Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...
elainenichollsnvr
May 23, 20242 min read
Parenting Styles
The four parenting styles are fairly well-known. Permissive (top left) is an approach to parenting where there’s a lot of warmth,...
elainenichollsnvr
May 22, 20241 min read
Don't compare how you feel to how others appear
Don't compare how you feel on the inside to how others appear on the outside. Remember - what people present on social media is a poor...
elainenichollsnvr
May 20, 20241 min read
Self compassion
The great thing about self compassion is it allows us to accept ourselves as we are while we openly acknowledge where we've still got...
elainenichollsnvr
May 16, 20241 min read
Children don't need perfection
Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 26, 20241 min read
Get a dog
If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 25, 20242 min read
Triggers and glimmers
Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 17, 20241 min read
Self care
Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...
elainenichollsnvr
Apr 15, 20241 min read
Being present
The main goal of NVR is being present in the lives and in the minds of children. As parents but also as grandparents, teachers, social...
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