Human beings learn by experience - things going well and things going not so well. It’s tempting to feel as though we need to say...

I love this quote by Karyn Purvis - an expert in developmental trauma, attachment difficulties, and therapeutic approaches. She was one...

Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

Children’s brains are wired differently to adult brains. The bits of the brain that help us manage our emotions and impulses, reflect on...

This right here is the key to therapeutic parenting - saying yes to the feelings (or ideas, or thoughts, or wishes, or drives) while also...

A level results in our house today. I’m in awe of those that did well and in awe of those that didn’t do so well. It’s difficult for...

Collaborative conversations are a fundamental part of NVR parenting and NVR approaches in schools. Starting from a belief that everyone's...

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

What a beautiful illustration by Hazel Mead. Reminding us to always to consider what's going on underneath the surface, to look beyond...

Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

Relationship gestures - a fancy term for all the things we do that keep us deeply connected to our children - are fundamental to NVR. A...

There's no blame or shame in NVR - there’s no blaming or shaming of parents and there’s no blaming or shaming of children. When our...

If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode. Most...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...