Boundaries

Sep 212 min read

NVR parenting - warm and firm

Deciding where to set our expectations for our children can be tricky when there's trauma, disabilities, and other things going on like...

Sep 22 min read

Boundaries

We’ve got a reactive cavapoo who barks a lot when anybody walks past the house, especially if they’ve got a dog. Initially there was no...

Aug 212 min read

Things I manage not to say

Children’s brains are wired differently to adult brains. The bits of the brain that help us manage our emotions and impulses, reflect on...

Aug 192 min read

Say yes to the feelings

This right here is the key to therapeutic parenting - saying yes to the feelings (or ideas, or thoughts, or wishes, or drives) while also...

Aug 132 min read

Can I use consequences in NVR parenting?

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

Jul 205 min read

BRAVING - the elements of trust in relationships

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

Jul 51 min read

Letting go

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

Jun 141 min read

Creating the conditions for felt safety

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

Jun 102 min read

You can't do everything

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....